A Lesson in Fatherhood
When I think back almost 17 years when my wife Pamela and I were blessed with our first daughter, Hannah Elizabeth, it seems like only yesterday. We were newly married and I had just started my career in Hotels after being out of college for a few years and life was exciting.
At the time, I was, for all purposes, very immature and honestly, didn’t know anything about being a father, let alone a being a husband. I took a lot of things for granted.
Then came Kaylee Batel, our second daughter. In their younger years I thought I had all the time in the world to spend with them and chose to do other things with friends and spending my time and money on everything else other than my family. Yes, it was selfish and that is who I was at that time.
Today, 17 years later, Hannah is 16, Kaylee is almost 14 and I am now 44. Over the past 3 or 4 years, something in me changed. I wondered where all the time went. The girls want to be anywhere else but home and I sometimes feel like I missed out. I robbed myself of the precious time with my girls in their younger years as well as years of moments with my wife.
Mortality has set in and as I am getting older, I have realized that the days I have left here on earth are getting shorter and there is nothing more important than the present and making each moment count. Today, I take the time to spend with each of my kids and my wife and have realized that family is what’s most important. Creating those special memories is really what life is about.
It’s about fostering love towards the people around you and projecting it everywhere you go. People are the only things that increase in value over time. Material things wither away and become worthless.
The lesson here is take the time to spend time with your kids when they are young so that when they are older, they want to spend time with you. Spend less time trying to aquire things and start to aquire love for others. Go out today and make someone feel special in your life…