As the years have passed by rather quickly, especially the past 20 years, I have reflected on the different stages of life I’ve been through and where I am today.
Prior to getting married to my wife Pamela and having our 2 girls, Hannah and Kaylee, I had just finished a 10 year marathon.
From leaving Hawaii at the end of my 10th grade year in HS to be placed in another school in NY to finish HS and then off to college, that process was from 1988 through 1996.
I had graduated, started working in Hotels and got into management. Shortly after I met my wife, had our first daughter in 2000 and moved from NY to Georgia back in 2001.
Honestly, being a father was the furthest thing on my mind when we found out we were going to have our first daughter Hannah.
I was pretty much starting my career in the hotel industry, a few years out of college, 6 months into a relationship with my wife Pamela and quite honestly, I was a little crazy.
I partied 3 to 5 nights a week, worked as a bartender part time at Jillians in Albany and as a Food and Beverage Director at the Hilton Garden Inn Albany Airport.
Having a child was the last thing on my mind when it happened. I have to tell you though, I was excited. I loved Pamela and decided it would be best to marry her, so I did. The day Hannah came into the world was the most exciting day of my life. Being that I grew up without my father, I vowed that I would NEVER leave my kids no matter what.
Before she was 1, we moved from Clifton Park, NY to Alpharetta, Ga. We lived in an apartment for a year and then moved into our first home in Cumming, Ga. back in 2002 which we still reside in.
During the first ten years of my daughters life, I struggled with addiction of both drugs and alcohol. While I was home, I really wasn’t present. I was always pre-occupied with work, partying, etc. I found myself very distant from my wife and daughter. In 2003, we had our second daughter Kaylee.
A Full Life
I’ve lived more in the 43 years that I have been on this earth then most will ever live in a lifetime. I’ve been wanting to write this memoir for years now and have finally slowed down enough to take a deep breath and get my journey down in writing. My hope is to leave this to the future generations of my family so that they will know where I came from, who I am and what I am really passionate about.
I thought about how to put this all together as so much has happened in the past 4 decades that I can hardly keep track of it all so I figured cronological order would be best.
In the beginning
I was born in 1972 at Albert Einstein hospital in the Bronx, NY. alongside my twin brother, Dylan Sean Boxer. My parents are Ellen Sue Boxer, formerly Ellen Sue Jacobs and now Mirayam Licht. My father was Lawrence (Larry Hugh Boxer). I’ll get into the family geneology later and layout as much family as I can remember. My mom’s parents were Ann Jacobs and Max (Meyer) Jacobs. My dads parents were Jesse Boxer and Barbara Boxer.
I was born in 1972, Graduated from college in 1995 and didn’t get my first cell phone until 1997, which by the way was 3 years before my first daughter was born. I remember the bag phones that cost 5 grand and came with $1000/m bills. I remember phone’s in cars that looked like what house phones used to look like. That was back in the 1980’s.
1980’s bag phone. 20lbs
Today I live with 3 women; My wife Pamela and two daughters Hannah (15) and Kaylee (12). Technology has taken over our lives. My wife easily spends a good 6-8 hours of the day on her now Samsung 6, and Samsung Tablet. Hannah sucks up most of the family’s data, using over 8 GIGS a month of data and right behind her we have Kaylee with 6.8 GIGS. I love my Iphone 6, its awesome, however, I honestly would rather not have to have a cell phone.
I remember when there was a pay phone on every corner and if you needed to make a call, you drop a quarter in and take care of your business. Life was slower back then, way slower. Today, we live in the fast lane. With access to information like we have, anything is possible for the masses. You could literally get a self taught education for nothing if you spent the time to watch all the videos available on the web today.
It’s been a while since my last post on my Blog
here at JoshBoxer.com . Quite honestly, I just wrote a whole paragraph on why I’ve been gone, yada yada all this BS. I highlighted it and deleted it and thought I’d shoot you right from the heart.
My wife Pamela and I celebrated 15 years of marriage this year. For us, its monumental. We Have Hannah who’s about to be 15 in June and Kaylee who just turned 12. It’s been such a blessing raising these girls. For the past 7 years, I have had the privilege of working from home. It’s allowed me to spend every day with my wife, make homemade school lunches for my girls and offered me peace that no rush hour can offer.
It’s been a blessing to watch them come home after school, be home every night to pray with them before bed. I’m proud to be a father that is emotionally and physically available for my family all the time.
Well, It’s been about six months since my last post and we are winding down the last few weeks of 2014. This has been a year of transformation and change for me. I feel myself getting older and wiser and slowing down just a bit.
I haven’t forgotten about my blog here, I just have not been inspired to write much lately. Stay tuned for 2015. New year, new thoughts, new goals, dreams and mountains to climb.
So yesterday I was dropping off my daughter Hannah’s running shoes which she left behind before she got on the bus. On the way home, I noticed that one of the signs outside of a local eatery here in town was hanging half down and it’s the only sign visible for this restaurant on the side of the building facing the road.
Being that I just ate there last week with my wife and the owner talked with us for at least a 1/2 hour while we ate our lunch, I felt a connection to the place. Rather then just letting it go, I picked up my phone, used Siri and called the restaurant and let them know that their sign needed to be fixed.
Most people wouldn’t have thought twice about going on with their day, however, something inside of me, wanted to help.
So we are at the end of the first month in the new year and while most people made New Years resolves before new year, mine have come to me just over the past few weeks. Let me explain……
While I made a pretty penny in 2013, partied like a rockstar, created memories with my family, there was one thing missing at the end of the year.
Where did it all go?